How to win against yourself… without losing.
Somewhat paradoxically, when you are in a contest against yourself (mentally), you don’t necessarily lose. You can win, without losing at the same time!
Who remembers seeing pictures of old-time circuses, with a baby elephant tied to a peg? It doesn’t escape because, when it’s young, it’s not strong enough to pull up the peg and walk away.
But an older elephant is strong enough to uproot the peg and go… so why doesn’t it? Because it simply doesn’t think it can!
In human terms, I’ve met people who’ve been told most, or all, of their lives, that they can’t do something because they’re “incapable”. The problem occurs when they start believing the lie. Perhaps you know how that feels? If so, please make sure you give yourself a chance – a real chance. You might surprise yourself pleasantly!
It helps to find even just one person who believes in you, to help you remember that you can do it. That person (or persons, hopefully) is your real friend, whether or not you believe in yourself, as discussed previously (click here).
In Desperado, two characters in Mexico are arguing, as one of them tries to motivate the other (who’s having a really bad day). He finally needles his friend into action by demanding, “Are you a MexiCAN, or a MexiCAN’T?!”
Whatever it takes… don’t let your life slip by you.
Even if the odds are against you. You are worth it!
After all, even Einstein had been told that he was mentally deficient as a child, and he failed his college entrance exam before going on to win the Nobel Prize… and today his name is synonymous with genius. Other talented people, such as Lucille Ball, Fred Astaire, Boris Becker, Thomas Edison, and Elvis Presley, and Lady Gaga were similarly dismissed as hopeless before their skills were recognised. Still others wanted to give up, or doubted themselves, like Stephen King, Luciano Pavarotti, or Winston Churchill… or even Happy Gilmore!
Don’t let that happen to you. If giving yourself a fair chance is not a worthwhile endeavour… then what else is?!
Your life is worth so much more than that!
So be a MexiCAN. You CAN do so much more than you think.
Dr Ling 🙂